Stop domestic violence With women

some real stories from victim who come across same problem.Violence against women:Moving side of offenders. some offenders are very dangerous. People whose are in legal background also experienced domestic violence. Or might be their family members are the victim of domestic violence.One story of Zairah, she lost her mom when she was only 19 years old. She is studying at uni 3 rd year. That time her dad actually killed her mom and her dad was thinking he will not plead guilty. In the mean time she also lost her aunt who is similar to her 2nd mom.She was preparing for final exam and her mom died. Violence aggression is very nasty. All of people and community knows that her Dad was not abuser , he was a perfect man. He never bullied to her mom, never beaten to her mom, her mom was only 42 that time.But in reality the story is different. Though her dad always Putting her down , he never wanted that her mom will be successful, he used to say a lots of worst things to his wife and feel proud for making her mom small. After then her mom started to scream or do something which seems like her mom is hyper. Her mom like to do shopping, making the house beautiful and take care of all family members. She has done all household chores, as we know Sydney is very difficult place for those whose are not welcoming by the neighbors, friends or relatives.

That man does not want relation, he just want control. He loved to control her wife's life. He never let her to be independent for her own life. Where she can't breath properly. All over those years she hardly survive.He just mock to his wife! He never likes his wife.That women always want to make her husband happy. She wore hijab before but that man didn't like it, so she took off her hijab .She could not get out of from this abusing relation.He is educated , loved to power play, why he got something then just love to pass bad comments or nagging to his wife.It is constantHis father controlled. Finally that mom want a divorce, but there was social taboo, stigmatized,Her children is not good enough to know about what's going on.They are strategic.They can’t find a way to separateMom went to outside . So the divorced concluded between her mom and dad.Property divided by half both of them. He murdered her unfortunately. Which is a shame! He couldn't control his male attitudes which pretend that he is the boss and he is the main person of doing anything that feels like he is awesome.How do we create resilience?Is going to manage her work, in mental space.If someone is the witness Of homicide suicide, it's very challenging. Specially if the victim is your mom.when the Dad’s trial took place:Victim and witnesses are coming altogether , make sure that he much Punish him in law,Court trials:Court trials are always very complicated. In court cross examined should be performed . Witnesses must gave statements. 

In that scenario the situation is quite complex. It's better to open about the truth , not to remain silent.Zaireh said, My dad’s family don’t like it that I am going to court and will give my statement.Her dad told that it’s manslaughter? Actually it is not!!Reputation is embarrassed.Person who have done mistake they will ashamed. Gradually he become to aggressive.Post it to my social media for awareness. So that some supports will come. Steps:Counselor for victim supportsAccess to counseling sessionAggressive thing happened in their life. Every incident which are more aggressive can cause harm to the victim. So choose the right counselor.In session with counseling ppl find that it may not be working. But u need to continue it. Gradually it works better.Build some resilience. Pray and writing is good for removing stress. Painting is also amazing for stress relief. Pop down to workbook and creative painting.You may be afraid of failure. But failure is good. You can learn a lot from your past failure. That victim said that her mom was a very supportive when she became sad in the past.Good network:By working with them is very good. Boundaries are respected. Need to do work with victim.For Domestic violence:Sentencing penalty was hard to proof. If proof guilty then court will impose order. For GBH will apply if someone is injured.Resilience is finding your inner talent. Work by your own. Do your work. 

Create your passion.Recently doing something is imp.My dad’s family want to work on that. They don't like me that I will give my statements in the court.Dad is trying to say plead not guilty.There is a Taboo that nice man can’t kill or do Violence with woman.Violence people are silent. They can be highly educated. But they never want that their wife will do better, name and fame of a female partner they simply can't tolerate!!Ppl see victim to crime, it's a very sad issue. We see how ppl became devastated after loose their loved one.Think that it could be me!Sympathy and empathy for the victim is really necessary.It’s the perpetrator who hold the controls. They can relate that. 

It’s psychological and emotional matter.He wants to check her phone.Coercive . When they loose control they want to re control it his violence , wants to take control of the girl and wanted to make her not to say anything in the court😋We don’t really know how is that happened.50% of women who died they died without physical violence .When a women is in abusive relationship :That is the most worst feeling in life to get ready and that guy sitback after abuse and enjoy and act like a he is a good guy. That's the symbol of bad guy.In relationship stigma: that divorce is very bad people think. But there must not be any point to stay when you see that your partner is aggressive and can kill you anytime.Islamic reasons and social reasons: both of these issues also play a vital role for this kind of incidents.Good initiative: Early marriage and they don’t say it before. 

Lots of cases and event are happening now but nobody is concern that the most livable person is tortured and the victim of domestic violence for last 20 years!!Sometimes dad's family member try to intimidate the kids by telling that if you go to court and said against your dad then it will look awkward. Nobody will like it and a lot of things. E.g. you don’t respect your dad!!Accountability is very imp in Islam as we know. So if you are the witness of that kind of incidents you must tell to the court so that real offender will get punished!In Islamic divorce and get papers:According to Islam if someone got divorced then their property should be divided according to Australian jurisdiction. In Australia you need to get a divorce according to law of this country.

If Women are scared , then you need to report it to police. Speak to someone about the domestic violence. So that you don't need to loss your life!!#Stop domestic violence !!